I pity the partners in these weeks leading up to Mother’s Day.
I know how much trouble my husband goes through to make this day run smoothly. I don’t make it easy for him. Of course, I will always, always appreciate the effort. But I can’t help myself…. While my spoken words are, ”Awwwww, it’s perfect, thank you soooo much!” my inner words are, “Too expensive! Too cheap! Too big! Too little! Too girly! Too plain!” Add to that the challenge of frying pancakes with little ones bouncing off the walls and pulling at each other while trying to shush them so that their mother can sleep in once a year. And having to choose a restaurant that is nice enough to wow the mother but not so nice that we can still dine leisurely with little ones dropping half their meal on the floor.
I say, let’s make it easy for everyone. Do we really need to test their understanding of our unspoken desires? Aren’t we with them today because they passed that test already?
So here it is. How to Get What You Want AND Make Him Feel Like a Rock Star
1.It was his idea. This is a golden rule. Do not forget this. It was HIS brilliant idea.
2.Do your research. Find out which store carries what you want. Again, the idea is to make it as easy as possible for everyone.
3.Start by dropping subtle hints. An example would go something like this. “Jake stretched my favourite sweater, I can’t wear it any more…. You know, the navy blue one from Brand XYZ. I think they still carry it at their online store.” This is where your research comes in handy.
4.If that doesn’t work, drop bolder hints. If you share a computer, leave the browser open with the exact item you want displayed to be “discovered.” If you don’t, leave open a catalogue with the item you want circled a few times, “carelessly” tossed on the kitchen bench next to the coffee machine.
5.If he asks you for ideas, give him some choices. This goes back to point number 1. You don’t want him to feel like a schmuck who just followed his partner’s order. If you give him choices, he can do minimum digging around and still “find” that perfect gift for you.
I hope this works out for you. If this doesn’t works, I’m sorry, you might have to wrap your own gift and hand it to him to give to you next Mother’s Day.
Any other ideas on what to get what you want?